Blending Research, Metaphysics, and Wisdom from Life’s Sunset Years to Minimize Regrets in Careers, Relationships, and Time Investments
Prepared by: Gerald A. Daquila, PhD. Candidate
ABSTRACT
This dissertation offers a comprehensive, multidisciplinary guide for new graduates embarking on their professional and personal journeys, with the aim of minimizing regrets in later years. Drawing from psychological, sociological, and metaphysical research, as well as reflective insights from individuals in their later years, it synthesizes evidence-based strategies and philosophical perspectives to foster a life of purpose, balance, and fulfillment.
Key themes include embracing authenticity in career choices, prioritizing meaningful relationships, and investing time intentionally. The narrative balances empirical rigor with accessible, blog-friendly language to engage young adults while grounding advice in academic literature. By integrating left-brain analytical reasoning with right-brain intuitive wisdom, this work provides a holistic framework for living sans regrets, enriched by lessons from those nearing the end of life.
Table of Contents
- Introduction
- The Graduate’s Crossroads
- Purpose and Scope
- Literature Review
- Psychological Perspectives on Regret
- Sociological Insights on Life Choices
- Metaphysical Frameworks for Meaning-Making
- Lessons from the Sunset Years
- Career Reflections
- Relationship Wisdom
- Time and Legacy
- A Multidisciplinary Framework for Living Sans Regrets
- Career: Aligning Purpose and Passion
- Relationships: Building Deep Connections
- Time Investments: Balancing the Present and Future
- Practical Strategies for New Graduates
- Setting Intentions with Clarity
- Cultivating Resilience and Adaptability
- Embracing Metaphysical Awareness
- Conclusion
- A Life Well-Lived
- Glossary
- Bibliography

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The One Who Holds Both Shores
1. Introduction
The Graduate’s Crossroads
Graduation marks a pivotal moment—a threshold where idealism meets reality, and choices begin to shape the arc of a life. New graduates face a world brimming with opportunity but also fraught with uncertainty. The pressure to succeed professionally, build meaningful relationships, and make the most of time can feel overwhelming. Yet, these early decisions often ripple into later years, influencing whether one looks back with satisfaction or regret. This dissertation offers a roadmap for navigating this crossroads, drawing on research and the hard-earned wisdom of those in their “sunset years” to help graduates live sans regrets.
Purpose and Scope
This work aims to provide new graduates with actionable, evidence-based advice to minimize regrets in three key domains: careers, relationships, and time investments. It integrates psychological and sociological research with metaphysical perspectives to offer a holistic framework. By balancing analytical rigor (left-brain reasoning) with intuitive, meaning-driven insights (right-brain reasoning), it seeks to resonate with young adults while maintaining scholarly depth. The narrative is crafted in a blog-friendly tone—accessible yet rigorous—to engage graduates eager to shape a fulfilling life.
2. Literature Review
Psychological Perspectives on Regret
Regret, a cognitive-emotional response to perceived missed opportunities, is a universal human experience. According to Zeelenberg and Pieters (2007), regret arises from counterfactual thinking—imagining “what might have been” if different choices were made. Their research highlights two types of regret: action regrets (stemming from things done) and inaction regrets (stemming from opportunities not taken). For graduates, inaction regrets—such as not pursuing a dream career or neglecting relationships—tend to dominate later in life (Gilovich & Medvec, 1995).
Self-determination theory (SDT) offers further insight, emphasizing the role of autonomy, competence, and relatedness in fostering well-being (Ryan & Deci, 2000). Graduates who align career and life choices with intrinsic motivations (autonomy) and build supportive relationships (relatedness) are less likely to experience regret. Conversely, extrinsic pressures—such as societal expectations or financial incentives—can lead to choices misaligned with one’s values, sowing seeds for regret (Kasser & Ryan, 1996).
Sociological Insights on Life Choices
Sociologically, life choices are shaped by social structures, cultural norms, and economic realities. Giddens’ theory of structuration (1984) suggests that individuals both shape and are shaped by their social environments. For graduates, this means navigating societal pressures (e.g., pursuing high-status careers) while exercising agency to define personal success. Research by Settersten and Ray (2010) on emerging adulthood highlights the prolonged transition to adulthood in modern societies, giving graduates more time—but also more pressure—to make pivotal choices.
Social capital theory (Bourdieu, 1986) underscores the importance of relationships in shaping life outcomes. Strong social networks provide emotional support, career opportunities, and a sense of belonging, reducing the likelihood of regret over isolation or missed connections. For graduates, investing in relationships early can yield long-term dividends.
Metaphysical Frameworks for Meaning-Making
Metaphysics, the study of existence and reality, offers a lens for understanding life’s deeper purpose. Existentialist philosophers like Sartre (1943) emphasize personal responsibility in creating meaning in an inherently meaningless universe. For graduates, this translates to embracing freedom to define their path, even amidst uncertainty.
Similarly, Frankl’s logotherapy (1946/2006) posits that finding purpose—through work, relationships, or suffering—mitigates existential regret. Eastern metaphysical traditions, such as Buddhism, advocate mindfulness and detachment from ego-driven desires, which can help graduates focus on the present while aligning with long-term values (Hanh, 1999).
These frameworks suggest that regret is not just a psychological or social phenomenon but a metaphysical one, tied to how individuals perceive their place in the universe. By integrating these perspectives, graduates can cultivate a sense of purpose that transcends immediate pressures.

Glyph of Regretless Living
Live fully, and no moment is lost.
3. Lessons from the Sunset Years
To ground this guide, we turn to the wisdom of those in their later years, whose reflections reveal common sources of regret and fulfillment. Qualitative studies, such as those by Ware (2012), document the insights of individuals nearing the end of life, offering lessons for younger generations.
Career Reflections
Many in their sunset years regret prioritizing financial security or societal approval over passion and purpose. Ware (2012) notes that a common lament is, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” Research by Wrzesniewski et al. (1997) supports this, showing that individuals who view work as a “calling” report higher life satisfaction than those driven by extrinsic rewards. Graduates can learn to prioritize intrinsic alignment—choosing careers that resonate with their values—over external validation.
Relationship Wisdom
Regret over neglected relationships is another recurring theme. Studies by Carstensen et al. (1999) on socioemotional selectivity theory show that as people age, they prioritize emotionally meaningful relationships over peripheral ones. Older adults often wish they had invested more time in family and close friends rather than fleeting social or professional networks. For graduates, this underscores the importance of nurturing deep, authentic connections early on.
Time and Legacy
Time mismanagement is a significant source of regret. Bronnie Ware’s (2012) research highlights sentiments like, “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard” and “I wish I’d let myself be happier.” Time perspective theory (Zimbardo & Boyd, 1999) suggests that a balanced time orientation—valuing the present while planning for the future—reduces regret. Older adults advise graduates to savor the moment, take risks, and avoid postponing joy for an elusive “someday.”
4. A Multidisciplinary Framework for Living Sans Regrets
Building on research and sunset-year wisdom, this section proposes a framework for graduates to minimize regrets across three domains: careers, relationships, and time investments.
Career: Aligning Purpose and Passion
To avoid career regrets, graduates should align their work with intrinsic values. Self-determination theory (Ryan & Deci, 2000) suggests that autonomy and competence drive fulfillment. Graduates can achieve this by:
- Exploring Passions Early: Experiment with diverse roles through internships, volunteering, or side projects to discover what resonates (Super, 1980).
- Embracing Iterative Growth: Career paths are rarely linear. Embracing adaptability, as advocated by Super’s career development theory, allows graduates to pivot without fear of failure.
- Seeking Meaning Over Status: Metaphysically, work is a vehicle for self-actualization (Maslow, 1943). Graduates should ask, “Does this work reflect who I am?” rather than “Does this impress others?”
Relationships: Building Deep Connections
Relationships are the cornerstone of a regret-free life. Social capital theory (Bourdieu, 1986) and socioemotional selectivity theory (Carstensen et al., 1999) emphasize the value of quality over quantity. Graduates can:
- Prioritize Authenticity: Invest in relationships that allow vulnerability and mutual growth, as these are most fulfilling long-term (Baumeister & Leary, 1995).
- Balance Independence and Connection: Sartre’s existentialism (1943) reminds us that freedom includes choosing meaningful interdependence, not isolation.
- Practice Forgiveness: Holding grudges or neglecting reconciliation often leads to regret. Practicing forgiveness fosters peace (Enright, 2001).
Time Investments: Balancing the Present and Future
Time is a finite resource, and its allocation shapes life’s narrative. Time perspective theory (Zimbardo & Boyd, 1999) advocates a balanced approach:
- Live Mindfully: Buddhist teachings (Hanh, 1999) encourage presence in the moment, reducing regrets over missed experiences.
- Take Calculated Risks: Inaction regrets often stem from fear of failure (Gilovich & Medvec, 1995). Graduates should embrace risks that align with their values, such as starting a business or traveling.
- Plan with Purpose: Setting long-term goals while savoring the present creates a legacy without sacrificing joy (Frankl, 1946/2006).
5. Practical Strategies for New Graduates
To translate this framework into action, graduates can adopt the following strategies:
Setting Intentions with Clarity
- Reflect on Values: Journaling or meditative practices can clarify what matters most, aligning choices with intrinsic goals (Ryan & Deci, 2000).
- Visualize the Future Self: Imagine your 80-year-old self. What would they thank you for doing now? This exercise, rooted in time perspective theory, reduces inaction regrets (Zimbardo & Boyd, 1999).
Cultivating Resilience and Adaptability
- Embrace Failure as Growth: Carol Dweck’s (2006) growth mindset encourages viewing setbacks as learning opportunities, reducing fear-driven regrets.
- Build a Support Network: Strong social capital (Bourdieu, 1986) provides resilience during challenges, ensuring graduates don’t face setbacks alone.
Embracing Metaphysical Awareness
- Practice Mindfulness: Daily mindfulness, as advocated by Thich Nhat Hanh (1999), fosters presence and reduces anxiety about the future.
- Seek Purpose: Frankl’s logotherapy (1946/2006) encourages finding meaning in small, daily acts, creating a life of purpose without overwhelming pressure.
6. Conclusion
A Life Well-Lived
Living sans regrets is not about perfection but about intentionality. By blending psychological insights, sociological wisdom, and metaphysical awareness, new graduates can craft lives that balance purpose, connection, and joy. The lessons from those in their sunset years serve as a poignant reminder: regret often stems from living for others, neglecting relationships, or postponing happiness.
By aligning careers with passion, nurturing authentic connections, and investing time mindfully, graduates can build a life that their future selves will look back on with gratitude. This multidisciplinary framework offers not just a roadmap but a call to live boldly, authentically, and fully in the present.
Crosslinks
- Resonance Metrics as a Spiritual Compass in Times of Uncertainty — A simple weekly dashboard (breath, coherence, relief) to choose go / hold / repair and avoid regret-by-habit.
- Divine Timing: A Guide for Souls on the Verge of Awakening — Trade forcing for experiments and seasons; say yes to openings, not FOMO.
- Redefining Work in a Post-Scarcity World: A New Dawn for Human Purpose and Connection — Shift from job titles to contribution; design apprenticeships, projects, and hubs.
- From Fear to Freedom: Harnessing Consciousness to Transform Media’s Impact — Attention hygiene to quit comparison economics and keep your inner metrics clean.
7. Glossary
- Counterfactual Thinking: Imagining alternative outcomes to past decisions, often leading to regret (Zeelenberg & Pieters, 2007).
- Self-Determination Theory (SDT): A psychological framework emphasizing autonomy, competence, and relatedness as drivers of well-being (Ryan & Deci, 2000).
- Social Capital: Resources gained through social networks, such as support and opportunities (Bourdieu, 1986).
- Socioemotional Selectivity Theory: A theory suggesting that as people age, they prioritize emotionally meaningful relationships (Carstensen et al., 1999).
- Logotherapy: A therapeutic approach focused on finding meaning in life, developed by Viktor Frankl (1946/2006).
- Growth Mindset: The belief that abilities can be developed through effort and learning (Dweck, 2006).
8. Bibliography
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