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  • Nurturing Abundance: Raising Children with an Abundance Mindset in a Scarcity-Driven World

    Nurturing Abundance: Raising Children with an Abundance Mindset in a Scarcity-Driven World

    A Multidisciplinary Exploration of Overcoming Limiting Beliefs for the Next Generation

    Prepared by: Gerald A. Daquila, PhD. Candidate


    10–15 minutes

    ABSTRACT

    In a world often defined by scarcity—where resources, opportunities, and success seem limited—raising children with an abundance mindset is both a challenge and an opportunity. This dissertation explores how limiting beliefs, rooted in a scarcity mindset, shape young minds and how parents, educators, and communities can foster resilience, creativity, and optimism in children.

    Drawing on psychological, sociological, economic, and metaphysical perspectives, this study examines the origins of scarcity-driven beliefs, their self-sustaining mechanisms, and strategies to cultivate an abundance mindset in children. By blending academic rigor with accessible, heart-centered storytelling, this work offers practical and metaphysical tools to empower the next generation. It emphasizes mindfulness, collaborative environments, and intentional parenting to help children transcend scarcity and embrace a worldview of limitless possibilities.


    Table of Contents

    1. Introduction
      • The Scarcity Mindset and Its Impact on Children
      • Purpose and Scope of the Study
    2. Understanding Limiting Beliefs in Children
      • Psychological Foundations
      • Sociological and Cultural Influences
    3. Origins of Limiting Beliefs in a Scarcity Environment
      • Evolutionary and Historical Roots
      • Socioeconomic and Environmental Factors
    4. The Self-Sustaining Ecosystem of Scarcity
      • Psychological Feedback Loops
      • Social Reinforcement Mechanisms
      • Economic and Systemic Influences
    5. Metaphysical Dimensions of Abundance
      • Consciousness and Belief Systems
      • Energy and Manifestation
    6. Strategies for Raising Abundance-Mindset Children
      • Starting Points: Modeling Awareness and Growth
      • Practical Tools: Cognitive, Emotional, and Social Approaches
      • Community and Collective Support
      • Metaphysical Practices for Young Minds
    7. Conclusion
      • Synthesizing Insights
      • A Call to Action for Future Generations
    8. Glossary
    9. Bibliography

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    The One Who Holds the Lattice of Light


    1. Introduction

    Picture a child growing up in a world that constantly signals “there’s not enough”—not enough time, money, or opportunities. This is the scarcity mindset, a pervasive lens that can shape young minds, fostering limiting beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “I have to compete to survive.” These beliefs don’t just limit a child’s potential; they can define their worldview, stifling creativity and resilience.

    This dissertation explores how to raise children with an abundance mindset—a perspective that sees possibilities as limitless, even in environments marked by scarcity. By weaving together psychology, sociology, economics, and metaphysics, we’ll uncover how limiting beliefs take root, why they persist, and how parents, educators, and communities can nurture optimism and empowerment in children. Written for a broad audience, this work balances scholarly depth with accessible, heart-centered storytelling, inviting readers to engage both mind and spirit in raising the next generation.


    Purpose and Scope

    This study aims to:

    • Define limiting beliefs and their connection to the scarcity mindset in children.
    • Trace the origins of these beliefs through psychological, social, and environmental lenses.
    • Analyze how scarcity creates a self-sustaining ecosystem that affects young minds.
    • Offer practical and metaphysical strategies for fostering an abundance mindset in children.
    • Inspire caregivers and communities to empower children to thrive in a world of possibility.

    2. Understanding Limiting Beliefs in Children

    Psychological Foundations

    Limiting beliefs in children are internalized assumptions that constrain their sense of self and potential, such as “I’m not smart enough” or “I’ll never fit in.” Cognitive psychology suggests these beliefs form early through schema development, where children create mental frameworks based on experiences (Piaget, 1952). For example, a child repeatedly told they’re “too slow” may develop a belief that they’re inherently incapable, reinforced by confirmation bias (Tversky & Kahneman, 1974). These beliefs become wired into neural pathways, shaping behavior and self-perception (Hebb, 1949).

    Children are particularly vulnerable because their brains are highly plastic, absorbing messages from their environment like sponges. Negative feedback or scarcity-driven messages can embed deeply, limiting their willingness to take risks or explore their potential.


    Sociological and Cultural Influences

    Children learn beliefs from their social world—parents, peers, teachers, and media. Social learning theory highlights how children mimic the attitudes of those around them (Bandura, 1977). In a scarcity-driven environment, adults may unknowingly model beliefs like “You have to fight for your place,” which children internalize. Cultural narratives also shape perceptions.

    In competitive societies, children may adopt beliefs like “There’s only room for one winner,” while collectivist cultures might foster beliefs like “My needs come last” (Hofstede, 2001).

    Media amplifies scarcity, with advertisements and social platforms promoting comparison and lack. For instance, exposure to idealized images on social media can lead children to believe they’re “not enough,” a phenomenon linked to lower self-esteem (Fardouly et al., 2015).


    3. Origins of Limiting Beliefs in a Scarcity Environment

    Evolutionary and Historical Roots

    Evolutionarily, a scarcity mindset was adaptive. Our ancestors’ survival depended on securing limited resources, wiring the brain to prioritize safety and competition (Buss, 1995). The amygdala, the brain’s fear center, triggers stress responses when resources seem scarce, fostering beliefs like “I must protect what’s mine.” While these instincts helped early humans, they can manifest in modern children as anxiety about failure or exclusion.

    Historically, scarcity was reinforced by systems like feudalism or early capitalism, where resources were concentrated among elites (Piketty, 2014). These structures created cultural narratives of limitation that persist today, influencing how children perceive opportunity and success.


    Socioeconomic and Environmental Factors

    Socioeconomic conditions profoundly shape children’s beliefs. Poverty, for example, creates a “scarcity trap,” where cognitive resources are consumed by immediate needs, leaving little room for long-term optimism (Mani et al., 2013). A child in a low-income household may internalize beliefs like “I’ll never get ahead,” reinforced by daily struggles.

    Environmental factors, like overcrowded schools or competitive extracurriculars, also foster scarcity thinking. Research shows that high-pressure environments can lead children to believe success is a zero-sum game, increasing stress and limiting creativity (Wilkinson & Pickett, 2009).


    4. The Self-Sustaining Ecosystem of Scarcity

    Scarcity creates a feedback loop that perpetuates limiting beliefs in children, forming a self-sustaining ecosystem across psychological, social, and economic domains.

    Psychological Feedback Loops

    Scarcity triggers hyperbolic discounting in children, where they prioritize immediate rewards over long-term goals (Laibson, 1997). For example, a child believing “I’ll never be good at math” may avoid studying, leading to poor performance that reinforces the belief. This cycle is amplified by self-fulfilling prophecies, where expecting failure shapes behaviors that ensure it (Merton, 1948).


    Social Reinforcement Mechanisms

    Socially, scarcity fosters competition over collaboration. In schools with limited resources, children may compete for teacher attention or awards, reinforcing beliefs like “I have to outshine others” (Kohn, 1992). Social comparison, especially via social media, exacerbates this, as children measure their worth against peers, deepening feelings of inadequacy (Festinger, 1954).


    Economic and Systemic Influences

    Economic systems can embed scarcity in children’s minds. In “winner-takes-all” economies, children may perceive success as unattainable unless they’re the “best” (Frank & Cook, 1995). For example, the pressure to secure limited spots in elite programs can foster beliefs like “I’m not enough,” particularly in under-resourced communities.

    This ecosystem is self-sustaining because psychological, social, and economic factors interlock, making scarcity feel like an unchangeable reality for children.


    Glyph of Nurtured Abundance

    Planting seeds of prosperity in the next generation, raising children to thrive beyond scarcity.


    5. Metaphysical Dimensions of Abundance

    Metaphysics offers a unique lens for understanding how to foster abundance in children, emphasizing consciousness and energy as tools for transformation.

    Consciousness and Belief Systems

    Metaphysically, our beliefs shape reality. Quantum physics suggests that observation influences outcomes (Bohr, 1958), implying that a child’s mindset can shape their experiences. If a child believes in scarcity, they may attract experiences that confirm it—a concept aligned with the law of attraction (Byrne, 2006). Teaching children to focus on possibility rather than lack can shift their reality toward abundance.


    Energy and Manifestation

    Scarcity is a low-vibrational state of fear, while abundance is a high-vibrational state of trust (Tolle, 2005). Practices like gratitude and visualization can help children align with abundance. For example, gratitude exercises have been shown to increase positive emotions in children, reducing scarcity-based thinking (Emmons & McCullough, 2003). Simple rituals, like sharing what they’re thankful for at dinner, can nurture this mindset.


    6. Strategies for Raising Abundance-Mindset Children

    Raising children with an abundance mindset requires intentional effort, blending practical and metaphysical approaches to counter scarcity’s influence.

    Starting Points: Modeling Awareness and Growth

    Children learn by example, so caregivers must model abundance. Self-reflection helps adults identify their own limiting beliefs, preventing them from passing these on (Bandura, 1977). For instance, a parent who reframes “We can’t afford that” to “Let’s find creative ways to make this work” teaches possibility thinking. Encouraging growth mindset—the belief that abilities can improve with effort—also counters scarcity (Dweck, 2006).


    Practical Tools: Cognitive, Emotional, and Social Approaches

    • Cognitive Reframing: Teach children to challenge limiting beliefs. For example, replace “I’m bad at this” with “I’m learning how to do this.” Cognitive behavioral techniques adapted for children can shift beliefs in weeks (Hofmann et al., 2012).
    • Emotional Regulation: Mindfulness activities, like guided breathing or storytelling, help children manage stress and stay open to possibilities (Kabat-Zinn, 1990).
    • Social Skills: Foster collaboration over competition. Cooperative games or group projects teach children that success isn’t zero-sum (Kohn, 1992).

    Community and Collective Support

    Scarcity thrives in isolation, so building supportive communities is crucial. Research shows that social capital—strong networks of trust—enhances children’s resilience (Putnam, 2000). Schools and families can create environments where children feel valued, such as through mentorship programs or inclusive activities. Community gardens, for example, teach children that resources can be shared and abundant.


    Metaphysical Practices for Young Minds

    • Gratitude Practice: Encourage daily gratitude rituals, like writing or sharing three things they’re thankful for, to shift focus from lack to abundance (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).
    • Visualization: Guide children to imagine positive outcomes, like succeeding in a task, to build confidence (Davidson, 2004). Simple exercises, like drawing their dreams, make this accessible.
    • Affirmations: Teach children positive affirmations, like “I am capable,” to rewire beliefs. Repetition strengthens neural pathways, fostering optimism (Hebb, 1949).

    7. Conclusion

    Raising children with an abundance mindset in a scarcity-driven world is a profound act of hope. Limiting beliefs, rooted in psychological, social, and economic systems, can constrain young minds, but they’re not inevitable. By modeling abundance, using evidence-based tools like cognitive reframing and mindfulness, and embracing metaphysical practices like gratitude and visualization, caregivers can help children see the world as a place of possibility. This journey begins with awareness, grows through intentional action, and flourishes in supportive communities.

    This dissertation calls on parents, educators, and communities to nurture the next generation’s potential, not as a finite resource but as a boundless wellspring. By blending mind, heart, and spirit, we can raise children who thrive in abundance, transforming their lives and the world around them.


    Crosslinks


    8. Glossary

    • Limiting Beliefs: Internalized assumptions that restrict a child’s potential or self-worth.
    • Scarcity Mindset: A worldview that perceives resources or opportunities as limited.
    • Abundance Mindset: A perspective that views possibilities as plentiful and accessible.
    • Growth Mindset: The belief that abilities can improve with effort and learning.
    • Confirmation Bias: The tendency to seek evidence that supports existing beliefs.
    • Law of Attraction: A metaphysical concept suggesting thoughts shape reality.

    9. Bibliography

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    Buss, D. M. (1995). Evolutionary psychology: A new paradigm for psychological science. Psychological Inquiry, 6(1), 1–30. https://doi.org/10.1207/s15327965pli0601_1

    Byrne, R. (2006). The Secret. Atria Books.

    Davidson, R. J. (2004). Well-being and affective style: Neural substrates and biobehavioral correlates. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, 359(1449), 1395–1411. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2004.1510

    Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Random House.

    Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84(2), 377–389. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.84.2.377

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  • Living Life Sans Regrets: A Multidisciplinary Guide for New Graduates

    Living Life Sans Regrets: A Multidisciplinary Guide for New Graduates

    Blending Research, Metaphysics, and Wisdom from Life’s Sunset Years to Minimize Regrets in Careers, Relationships, and Time Investments

    Prepared by: Gerald A. Daquila, PhD. Candidate


    10–15 minutes

    ABSTRACT

    This dissertation offers a comprehensive, multidisciplinary guide for new graduates embarking on their professional and personal journeys, with the aim of minimizing regrets in later years. Drawing from psychological, sociological, and metaphysical research, as well as reflective insights from individuals in their later years, it synthesizes evidence-based strategies and philosophical perspectives to foster a life of purpose, balance, and fulfillment.

    Key themes include embracing authenticity in career choices, prioritizing meaningful relationships, and investing time intentionally. The narrative balances empirical rigor with accessible, blog-friendly language to engage young adults while grounding advice in academic literature. By integrating left-brain analytical reasoning with right-brain intuitive wisdom, this work provides a holistic framework for living sans regrets, enriched by lessons from those nearing the end of life.


    Table of Contents

    1. Introduction
      • The Graduate’s Crossroads
      • Purpose and Scope
    2. Literature Review
      • Psychological Perspectives on Regret
      • Sociological Insights on Life Choices
      • Metaphysical Frameworks for Meaning-Making
    3. Lessons from the Sunset Years
      • Career Reflections
      • Relationship Wisdom
      • Time and Legacy
    4. A Multidisciplinary Framework for Living Sans Regrets
      • Career: Aligning Purpose and Passion
      • Relationships: Building Deep Connections
      • Time Investments: Balancing the Present and Future
    5. Practical Strategies for New Graduates
      • Setting Intentions with Clarity
      • Cultivating Resilience and Adaptability
      • Embracing Metaphysical Awareness
    6. Conclusion
      • A Life Well-Lived
    7. Glossary
    8. Bibliography

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    The One Who Holds Both Shores


    1. Introduction

    The Graduate’s Crossroads

    Graduation marks a pivotal moment—a threshold where idealism meets reality, and choices begin to shape the arc of a life. New graduates face a world brimming with opportunity but also fraught with uncertainty. The pressure to succeed professionally, build meaningful relationships, and make the most of time can feel overwhelming. Yet, these early decisions often ripple into later years, influencing whether one looks back with satisfaction or regret. This dissertation offers a roadmap for navigating this crossroads, drawing on research and the hard-earned wisdom of those in their “sunset years” to help graduates live sans regrets.

    Purpose and Scope

    This work aims to provide new graduates with actionable, evidence-based advice to minimize regrets in three key domains: careers, relationships, and time investments. It integrates psychological and sociological research with metaphysical perspectives to offer a holistic framework. By balancing analytical rigor (left-brain reasoning) with intuitive, meaning-driven insights (right-brain reasoning), it seeks to resonate with young adults while maintaining scholarly depth. The narrative is crafted in a blog-friendly tone—accessible yet rigorous—to engage graduates eager to shape a fulfilling life.


    2. Literature Review

    Psychological Perspectives on Regret

    Regret, a cognitive-emotional response to perceived missed opportunities, is a universal human experience. According to Zeelenberg and Pieters (2007), regret arises from counterfactual thinking—imagining “what might have been” if different choices were made. Their research highlights two types of regret: action regrets (stemming from things done) and inaction regrets (stemming from opportunities not taken). For graduates, inaction regrets—such as not pursuing a dream career or neglecting relationships—tend to dominate later in life (Gilovich & Medvec, 1995).

    Self-determination theory (SDT) offers further insight, emphasizing the role of autonomy, competence, and relatedness in fostering well-being (Ryan & Deci, 2000). Graduates who align career and life choices with intrinsic motivations (autonomy) and build supportive relationships (relatedness) are less likely to experience regret. Conversely, extrinsic pressures—such as societal expectations or financial incentives—can lead to choices misaligned with one’s values, sowing seeds for regret (Kasser & Ryan, 1996).


    Sociological Insights on Life Choices

    Sociologically, life choices are shaped by social structures, cultural norms, and economic realities. Giddens’ theory of structuration (1984) suggests that individuals both shape and are shaped by their social environments. For graduates, this means navigating societal pressures (e.g., pursuing high-status careers) while exercising agency to define personal success. Research by Settersten and Ray (2010) on emerging adulthood highlights the prolonged transition to adulthood in modern societies, giving graduates more time—but also more pressure—to make pivotal choices.

    Social capital theory (Bourdieu, 1986) underscores the importance of relationships in shaping life outcomes. Strong social networks provide emotional support, career opportunities, and a sense of belonging, reducing the likelihood of regret over isolation or missed connections. For graduates, investing in relationships early can yield long-term dividends.


    Metaphysical Frameworks for Meaning-Making

    Metaphysics, the study of existence and reality, offers a lens for understanding life’s deeper purpose. Existentialist philosophers like Sartre (1943) emphasize personal responsibility in creating meaning in an inherently meaningless universe. For graduates, this translates to embracing freedom to define their path, even amidst uncertainty.

    Similarly, Frankl’s logotherapy (1946/2006) posits that finding purpose—through work, relationships, or suffering—mitigates existential regret. Eastern metaphysical traditions, such as Buddhism, advocate mindfulness and detachment from ego-driven desires, which can help graduates focus on the present while aligning with long-term values (Hanh, 1999).

    These frameworks suggest that regret is not just a psychological or social phenomenon but a metaphysical one, tied to how individuals perceive their place in the universe. By integrating these perspectives, graduates can cultivate a sense of purpose that transcends immediate pressures.


    Glyph of Regretless Living

    Live fully, and no moment is lost.


    3. Lessons from the Sunset Years

    To ground this guide, we turn to the wisdom of those in their later years, whose reflections reveal common sources of regret and fulfillment. Qualitative studies, such as those by Ware (2012), document the insights of individuals nearing the end of life, offering lessons for younger generations.

    Career Reflections

    Many in their sunset years regret prioritizing financial security or societal approval over passion and purpose. Ware (2012) notes that a common lament is, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” Research by Wrzesniewski et al. (1997) supports this, showing that individuals who view work as a “calling” report higher life satisfaction than those driven by extrinsic rewards. Graduates can learn to prioritize intrinsic alignment—choosing careers that resonate with their values—over external validation.


    Relationship Wisdom

    Regret over neglected relationships is another recurring theme. Studies by Carstensen et al. (1999) on socioemotional selectivity theory show that as people age, they prioritize emotionally meaningful relationships over peripheral ones. Older adults often wish they had invested more time in family and close friends rather than fleeting social or professional networks. For graduates, this underscores the importance of nurturing deep, authentic connections early on.


    Time and Legacy

    Time mismanagement is a significant source of regret. Bronnie Ware’s (2012) research highlights sentiments like, “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard” and “I wish I’d let myself be happier.” Time perspective theory (Zimbardo & Boyd, 1999) suggests that a balanced time orientation—valuing the present while planning for the future—reduces regret. Older adults advise graduates to savor the moment, take risks, and avoid postponing joy for an elusive “someday.”


    4. A Multidisciplinary Framework for Living Sans Regrets

    Building on research and sunset-year wisdom, this section proposes a framework for graduates to minimize regrets across three domains: careers, relationships, and time investments.

    Career: Aligning Purpose and Passion

    To avoid career regrets, graduates should align their work with intrinsic values. Self-determination theory (Ryan & Deci, 2000) suggests that autonomy and competence drive fulfillment. Graduates can achieve this by:

    • Exploring Passions Early: Experiment with diverse roles through internships, volunteering, or side projects to discover what resonates (Super, 1980).
    • Embracing Iterative Growth: Career paths are rarely linear. Embracing adaptability, as advocated by Super’s career development theory, allows graduates to pivot without fear of failure.
    • Seeking Meaning Over Status: Metaphysically, work is a vehicle for self-actualization (Maslow, 1943). Graduates should ask, “Does this work reflect who I am?” rather than “Does this impress others?”

    Relationships: Building Deep Connections

    Relationships are the cornerstone of a regret-free life. Social capital theory (Bourdieu, 1986) and socioemotional selectivity theory (Carstensen et al., 1999) emphasize the value of quality over quantity. Graduates can:

    • Prioritize Authenticity: Invest in relationships that allow vulnerability and mutual growth, as these are most fulfilling long-term (Baumeister & Leary, 1995).
    • Balance Independence and Connection: Sartre’s existentialism (1943) reminds us that freedom includes choosing meaningful interdependence, not isolation.
    • Practice Forgiveness: Holding grudges or neglecting reconciliation often leads to regret. Practicing forgiveness fosters peace (Enright, 2001).

    Time Investments: Balancing the Present and Future

    Time is a finite resource, and its allocation shapes life’s narrative. Time perspective theory (Zimbardo & Boyd, 1999) advocates a balanced approach:

    • Live Mindfully: Buddhist teachings (Hanh, 1999) encourage presence in the moment, reducing regrets over missed experiences.
    • Take Calculated Risks: Inaction regrets often stem from fear of failure (Gilovich & Medvec, 1995). Graduates should embrace risks that align with their values, such as starting a business or traveling.
    • Plan with Purpose: Setting long-term goals while savoring the present creates a legacy without sacrificing joy (Frankl, 1946/2006).

    5. Practical Strategies for New Graduates

    To translate this framework into action, graduates can adopt the following strategies:

    Setting Intentions with Clarity

    • Reflect on Values: Journaling or meditative practices can clarify what matters most, aligning choices with intrinsic goals (Ryan & Deci, 2000).
    • Visualize the Future Self: Imagine your 80-year-old self. What would they thank you for doing now? This exercise, rooted in time perspective theory, reduces inaction regrets (Zimbardo & Boyd, 1999).

    Cultivating Resilience and Adaptability

    • Embrace Failure as Growth: Carol Dweck’s (2006) growth mindset encourages viewing setbacks as learning opportunities, reducing fear-driven regrets.
    • Build a Support Network: Strong social capital (Bourdieu, 1986) provides resilience during challenges, ensuring graduates don’t face setbacks alone.

    Embracing Metaphysical Awareness

    • Practice Mindfulness: Daily mindfulness, as advocated by Thich Nhat Hanh (1999), fosters presence and reduces anxiety about the future.
    • Seek Purpose: Frankl’s logotherapy (1946/2006) encourages finding meaning in small, daily acts, creating a life of purpose without overwhelming pressure.

    6. Conclusion

    A Life Well-Lived

    Living sans regrets is not about perfection but about intentionality. By blending psychological insights, sociological wisdom, and metaphysical awareness, new graduates can craft lives that balance purpose, connection, and joy. The lessons from those in their sunset years serve as a poignant reminder: regret often stems from living for others, neglecting relationships, or postponing happiness.

    By aligning careers with passion, nurturing authentic connections, and investing time mindfully, graduates can build a life that their future selves will look back on with gratitude. This multidisciplinary framework offers not just a roadmap but a call to live boldly, authentically, and fully in the present.


    Crosslinks


    7. Glossary

    • Counterfactual Thinking: Imagining alternative outcomes to past decisions, often leading to regret (Zeelenberg & Pieters, 2007).
    • Self-Determination Theory (SDT): A psychological framework emphasizing autonomy, competence, and relatedness as drivers of well-being (Ryan & Deci, 2000).
    • Social Capital: Resources gained through social networks, such as support and opportunities (Bourdieu, 1986).
    • Socioemotional Selectivity Theory: A theory suggesting that as people age, they prioritize emotionally meaningful relationships (Carstensen et al., 1999).
    • Logotherapy: A therapeutic approach focused on finding meaning in life, developed by Viktor Frankl (1946/2006).
    • Growth Mindset: The belief that abilities can be developed through effort and learning (Dweck, 2006).

    8. Bibliography

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    Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The new psychology of success. Random House.

    Enright, R. D. (2001). Forgiveness is a choice: A step-by-step process for resolving anger and restoring hope. American Psychological Association.

    Frankl, V. E. (2006). Man’s search for meaning (Original work published 1946). Beacon Press.

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